Divorcing a Friend
As we know it very well that our friends play a very important role in our life and
in some cases we rely on them even more then our family members, then why is it so that
Sometimes that most valuable friendship comes to an end without prior discussion and
information . This topic has been discussed in an article in ‘Reader’s Digest’.
Friends come in many categories - best- friends, close- friends........ .and ex-friends.
"The ideal of 'friendship forever' has replaced that of 'marriage forever", says Jan Yager,
a sociology professor and friendship coach, and the author of 'When Friendship
Hurts and Friend -shifts'.
Just like couples, friends can break up, too. But , how do you dump a friend? cases
of major rifts or betrayals, yager advises being direct. "Tell your friend what
hurt you and why you need to put the friendship on hold".
While it's cruel to abandon longtime friends without offering any reason, it's easy
to let some friendships fizzle: Don't return calls as quickly; avoid plans or make
them so far ahead that there's time to cancel if you decide you still don't want
to get together. Phasing - out friends who have put you down- or who have let you
down - pays other dividends, she says. "One benefit of 'pruning' destructive
friendship is you will have more time and energy to invest in positive friendship- and
to cultivate new once. If you feel better about your friends, you are more likely to
feel better about yourself".