If you have observed that you no longer have that spark between you and your boyfriend, then it must be bothering you, and you would be worrying whether boyfriend really loves you or not. You may not want to loose your boyfriend, but if you have noticed that he has acted strangely, then there are chances that he may leave you soon unless you start acting on it. Every relationship is fragile and it needs a natural balance of trust, commitment and responsibility. If this balance is disturbed, you need to fix it diligently before things go so wrong that it cannot be reversed back.
No situation is difficult or bad enough that you cannot come back from it, is what the author of famous e-book 'magic of making up' says. Now, this author is not a love guru or a psychiatrist, or a psychologist, but he is known to have mastered the art of psychoanalysis, which means that whatever he has written in the book is rich and coming from his observation and experience in dealing with people and similar situations. Write up is interesting good read, easy enough to follow, and it can really help you in taking right action as per the situation.
Following are the few excerpts from the book, which can help you in salvaging the situation
1) Don't beg, be strong
Break-ups are not easy, and it can be even more difficult if you lose your sanity and run around your boyfriend so that he like you again. This is likely to repel him only. Instead be strong and handle the situation more calmly.
2) Do not over communicate
Too much communication at this time is a big no, and not recommended at all. It never really helps in rebuilding a relationship. Give your boyfriend space and time to clear his mind, and realize the importance of your relationship
3) Be flexible
Don't give directions like 'you have time till this weekend to give me', as you are not likely to draw anything in return. These mandates are only going to make things worse. Moreover, if you are in pursuit of getting your boyfriend back then you need to make sure that you treat him in such a way that he miss these deadlines from you.
4) Spend time with your old friends
Don't be alone and un-entertained. It can be difficult, but you need to spend time with your old friends and create awareness in you, otherwise you will go into a shell in no time. You need to hold yourself, because in these trying times, it can be very easy to into a self-pity mode. This self-pity will not help you anyways even if you manage to get your boyfriend back.
5) Do not change your identity
Your boyfriend liked for your unique personality, and changing it is not going to help at all. Instead, find out what has changed in you over the years, and try to become the real person that you were.
You need to be stable and determined, and make sure that your life continues even though you will commit to get your boyfriend back. If your love for your boyfriend was real, then it should reflect in your determination and attitude.