I looked up "Family" in the dictionary. And it came out with more than two options, but the main two were:
a basic social unit consisting of parents and their children, considered as a group, whether dwelling
together or not: the traditional family
a social unit consisting of one or more adults together with the children they care for: a single-parent family
My family was more of the B type. A mother and three daughters.
I grew up with the idea that when a divorced mother with three daughters
has money issues, her family is supposed to help in some
no one in our family ever helped her.
We were moving out and in from one place to another,
surviving by the pity of any of her friends.
All of a sudden, I grew up. And I discovered the other side of the story.
Her family DID wanted to help her, but she was too proud and did
everything to show them that she could on her own...
with three girls starving.
Now she knows I know, and she is doing what she did with us.
As she turned our minds against our family, She turned my family's
mind against me.
After several kicked out of many familiar houses,
I am now living with my boyfriend.
Her mother was the one who offered me a stay, after many times of hearing my sobs.
There is always, always someone.
If you want to go for the spiritual side, well, that Wise Energy of the Universe,
or simply God, whatever it is for you, helps you if you help yourself.
If you don't give up on life he or it never leaves you alone with something you can't handle
and I am saying I can't handle to pay bills, car and school
by myself, I am just 20.
And what I mean with this, it is that I have never given up,
I struggle everyday to be someone important someday, and I have never
felt the urge to "cut" or to do drugs, not even commiting suicide.
Now, if I have my eyes set on getting a higher position in life
than the one I have now,
I can get advantage of every little detail, right?
But instead of that, if I waste my time,
feeling pity for myself, because I am alone in the world, because
my sisters grew up with me and all of a sudden they believe
the lies they hear, and waste the few coins in my pockets on drugs,
well, there is a lot sence in that right?
There is always a way.
Keep calm and open your eyes wide open.
I do believe there are people who have lived worse things than I have
(considering that my father hit me
and my mother keeps on telling everyone that he was just defending himself,
or that my ex boyfriend raped me
and she claimed it was my fault)
but if you believe you are strong enough,
you can go through ANYTHING.
I have heard a lot that the power of the human mind
is infinite and precious.
If you want to get out of the mud
clean, well, that is a tough task.
But there is a big diference between feeling trapped because
you are still dirty and getting rid of the excess of mud in your shoes
to walk away to a safer place.
If you want to be depressed, go on, feel the sadness.
Those feelings remind us that we are alive,
but don't let that eat you up.
I feel depressed almost everyday, and I still get up to work.
Take a self help book, read music, ride a bike at 6am.
Everytime I have felt alone, I fix every little detail around me
so I could feel loved. Like preparing coffee and
turning on those christmas lights on my room,
hearing music and reading a book.
For me, it doesn't make me feel like I am not alone,
but it does makes me feel like I am the only one I need for myself.
Once you feel you are strong enough to rely in you
and only you, people around you may want to help you in those hard times.
Because, let me tell you, no one wants to "take care" of anyone
who is always self lamenting and who is probably just be a
Oh, and if you are religious,
dont forget to thank everyday.