WHERE DOES THE SEXUAL DESIRE COME FROM? Nearly ten percent of women say they don’t have any desire for sex.
Specialists
explain the reason. In the beginning it was orgasm – or the difficulty to reach it. Today, if the seek for the climax remains to be the main reason the women go to office of the sexologist and therapist; this complaint is followed very close to another one: the lack of desire.
According to a research from the Sexuality Project (ProSex) from Clinics Hospital USP. For almost 10% of women, the difficulty is not to take advantage from the pleasure of sex (many times they get), but to have the desire to make it. Where does the desire come from? What does it stimulate or what is it blocked to blossom? From the point of hormonal view, the testosterone, either for women or men is the main responsible for wish to make sex. But the estrogen, the feminine sexual hormone, essentially, acts like something that makes easier to make sex – it “motivates” the libido. It emphasizes the feminine characteristics, it irrigates, excites and prepares the body for the sex. On the body of an adult woman, the hormonal production oscillates according to the menstrual cycle. It is the nature working for the procreation: when the woman is on a fertile period, the hormone taxes raises. Therefore the desire is possible and, consequently, the possibility of the sex and fecundation. It happens that human beings are a little more complex and ahead of certain psychological imperatives.The biological functioning nor always leads better. In others words although the hormones are on their highest peak, a woman who was not available to feel the desire for the sex she will not feel. Among the factors that impede that it happens is the lack of experience. Our culture does not stimulate the women to feel desire, says the psychiatric Carmita Abdo, coordinator of Prosex. Traditionally, she attributes the initiative of sex to the men. Many unsatisfied women still go to the doctor and they are sure that just a simple little medicine can finish with their problems. “They arrive here, wishing to change the hormonal taxes, because someone says that it raises up the desire says the gynecologist Mauro Haidar, the boss of the subject of endocrinology and gynecology of the Federal University. According to the doctor, this kind of resource can only work in the case patients present hormonal problems (about 13% of the feminine population says that they don’t have desire, according to a Study about Sexual Brazilian Life, led by PROSEX. It happens because on healthy women the taxes of hormones are already in the limits of the normality. !The excess would provoke unbalanced, instead of bringing advantages. The way to reach the feminine desire is shorter than we could imagine. Men follow a different model from women. First they feel desire, them they get excited and then they get the orgasm and finally a relaxing moment if everything goes on, satisfactorily, for sure. Men functions like that, but women, they don’t. There is a very important stage for women that it is the stimulation: to feel desire, most of them need to be touched. For men a fantasy or visual stimulus is enough to give out the libido. Women need much more: they need to be involved, they need cherish, love, to feel warm. For the psychiatric Carmita Abdo it can modify through out different directions the study of the feminine desire. Perhaps it is the idea that was missing for the women to recognize that their desire comes along to other ways, differently to men.