..... After Sex
cocktail of sex hormones released after both women and men climax can
have the opposite effect on our postsex wish list. "Studies show that
following intercourse, the male brain often goes into a rest state --
he feels drained and tired -- while the woman''s brain is stimulated and
intensely desires bonding," explains Michael Gurian, therapist and
author of What Could He Be Thinking: How a Man''s Mind Really Works.
Fear not, though. We''ve overcome those biological obstacles and
identified afterplay pleasers that will satisfy you both. Some are
designed to short-circuit his snooze reflex and electrify his bod;
others indulge his just-shagged daze while feeding your need for
intimacy. Read on to discover the randy moves that will create the most
pleasurable and satisfying after-sex moments you''ve had with your man
Take a Shower
Cosmo asked guys about the most sexalicious thing women could do after
getting busy, this was their number-one plea: Suggest a shower for two.
It''s a no-brainer. Any situation that has you hot, wet, nude and
invading his personal space is bound to overpower his postcoital crash
response. "I love being pulled into the shower by my girlfriend after
sex. Her wet body rubbing against me -- it''s all good," says Andy, 28.
Start by taking turns slowly scrubbing each other''s back, shoulders and
neck. Then press up against your lover for some sexy snuggling under
the shower stream, running your slippery, sudsy hands over his back and
butt. The heat-soaked environment not only keeps your bods superclose,
but it also actually prolongs the postorgasmic flush of your
just-finished booty session. Here''s how: "As the hot water hits your
skin, it stimulates blood flow and circulation, which keeps your body
feeling aroused," says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., a sexologist in San Francisco.
If all this postcoital closeness inspires something frisky to unfold
between you and him, go there. But ultimately, being so together after
being so intimate is often enough of a rush.
Pay Him a Carnal Compliment
are suckers for hearing about their sizzling sex skills. When you
mention the mattress moves that drove you wild, it strokes his ego and
makes him feel virile. "Men can feel anxious about their performance,
so they really want to hear it from you that you had a good time in
bed," says Judy Kuriansky, Ph.D., author of The Complete Idiot''s Guide
to a Healthy Relationship. Your flattering feedback will keep him from
dozing -- he''s definitely gonna stay awake for this performance
assessment -- and kick-start light conversation, which you may be in
the mood for right about now.
So recall the evening''s erotic events in detail, but don''t go too over
the top with your carnal confessions.
"Whenever a girl raves about the
sex but doesn''t give specifics, I feel like she''s blowing smoke up my
ass," admits Ewan,* 27. To start, you can describe your favorite body
lock: "That position where I got on top and we both straightened our
legs -- wow!" Or opt for a little technique approval: "I really liked
the way you kept so still while I was climaxing."
Your dirty talk will stay with him long after your thong has been
retrieved from the ceiling fan. "It leaves a sexy impression," assures
Josh, 25. Plus, there''s a long-term benefit to this booty wrap-up: It
imprints your "Yes, please!" moments in his memory for next time.
Give Him a Massage
because the sex is over doesn''t mean it''s hands-off. Massage is a great
way to maintain that physical connection for you, while prolonging his
bliss buzz. Obviously, foreplay hot spots -- such as his privates --
will be a tender no-go zone. "There''s nothing worse than a girl who
keeps handling your goods after sex," complains idea." So, you need to unlock the erogenous zones that will keep
your guy in a state of ongoing pleasure, not pain.
For a more relaxing and sensual session, position yourself so that
you''re lying on your side, facing him. "Trace light circles on his
torso. Starting at the chest, move around the navel, skim the pelvic
bone and continue back up," says Steve Capellini, massage therapist and
author of Massage For Dummies. "Or stroke your fingertips from his
collarbone down over his chest to his hip bones and back again." These
moves allow you to tickle his fancy while still maintaining an intimate
If you want him to reciprocate, tempt him into action with a more
invigorating touch. Capellini suggests a technique called percussion.
Have your guy lie on his stomach and straddle him. "Bounce the sides of
your hands or push and tap your fingertips along his back and
buttocks," says Capellini. While you enjoy the tactile thrill of having
your legs wrapped around him, your touch encourages increased blood
flow, which makes him feel energized rather than drained -- and may
even inspire him to return the favor.
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