If the throne is bouncing!
"The question, whether a child grows up with or without
brothers and sisters, is only
one of many, which is important for its
development", says munich psychologist Hartmut Kasten.
More important than the number of siblings is the family climate!
It doesn't really matter Whether parents have a good or bad
partnership, educate alone or together, strict or rather liberal, rich
or poor, whether on the country or in the city."Exaggeratedly, one
could formulate that every kid of a family grows up in a different
family", american
brothers and sisters researchers Judith Dunn and
Robert Plomin said.
Actually not the constellation shapes the personlality development,
but the experience, a child gaines in its role as first, second or
third born child. Parents are uncertain with the first child and really
endeavored to make everything right. With the second or third child,
they are more calm and describe their "pet of the family" as
uncomplicated, although actually they have fewer difficulties with
their own parents role.
Long time before
children realize a difference between itself and
their brothers and sisters, parents sometimes describe their baby
already as moody and touchy, if it is a daughter and as energetically
and assertively, if it is a son. In family life, differences can become
easily inequalities, which lead to inequities.
If the family roles are tightly limited, the development of the
children could be burdened.In this case every role can easily lead to a
straitjacket. It can be very difficult for the clown, to make it plain
for his family to take him seriously.