Be with me or leave me alone….
Have you ever thought of being left alone and that
too in a time when you badly need the help of others? Is that what we call an old age? This old age is a phenomenon
were the loneliness and age comes as the two side of a coin. Sometimes this solitude is self created one and at times this could be made by some one else for you. As proverb says "Few people know how to be old" yeah this reality should be treated cleverly.
When sat to write an abstract and gone vividly through various all the while I left alone and fixed my eyes on this one which came on folio on the Hindu newspaper years back even an old subject but it happens to get new meaning in every days life and every aspect of life with in yourself or with in others.
The main milestones of old age are depression followed by solitude, accompanied by fear anxiety loss of memory and too much. All these makes man physically and mentally dependable animal and search for any shoulder to lean, and that time when we are not provided with someone who can care them they feel very depressed. By that means we could say the old age to be a mental state which has to be
handled with proper care. There are two means to be handled this old age issue. One the people who gets old himself should adjust to the surrounding by making himself busy in schedules and not left him alone out of the
society to feel lonely. Secondly the care provider who is with them should create and atmosphere which cost no money but mental satisfaction to boost up their urge and confidence and make them feel warm and comfortable. These two paradigms if brushed up correctly instead of looking at the society and point to what others do we can convince somewhat the old age problem from a hype which is making now.
By the first the people who were working can work with not the same strict schedule but comfortable timing like a teacher who teaches can take home tuition and engage him/her with out making themselves alone in their home. Same the children if their parents come old can create a warm atmosphere to them instead of pampering them and blaming the, for what they cant do even their mind urge. For this from small age itself the kids should be given moral lessons to be patient with their grandparents and understand what life is. However, the sense of distress at the gloomy depictions of the aged is not to deny that there are social and demographic factors as explanation.
The nuclear family units, the migrating children, busy working schedule add to these, the assertion of individuality and self expression on the part of the generation just entering adulthood of them all had turned to be a reason for this old age loneness .I feel myself instead of cursing the old age people must themselves turn to get used to that and enjoy the span and make life go through another face so that you yourself may not feel burden to society or to your dear ones. There is some attrition in the status of the ageing and in the attention they receive for their own needs.Instead of pity, people would like understanding, affection, and friendship. So when your parents grew older, when your grand parents come older be with them and patiently understand how they suffered being with your when you were young to be handled