I had a big problem with my mother in law , she is very taught person , I can not stand her bad behavior , she is penny –pincher
and the worst thing she did want me to be her daughter in law since 1999 till 2005 , she made a lot of problems and I was in love with her son since then , we are Arab, and thus we have some traditions , we must respect it , then I figure out that the
problem is in my husband , he always obeys her mother strangely , she owns his money(inherence) , can not you image that , I love him too much and I want to marry him , he has verity of good qualities ,I decide to fight for him, thus I waited him till he got good job and finally we got marry , then I tried hard to deal with her patiently , but it did not work either, I gave her very expensive gifts to make her feel satisfied with me , but she always said to me :" my son deserve richer girl more that you , my son deserves high educated girl more than you "she always insulting me , I can not tell more , but thank god ,I have deep self -confident and , I knew she envied me for every thing : my beauty , my family( virtues parents and virtues brothers) , my religious , my parents , strong personality, dependable ,social person, people loved me, her family loved me so much .
I comprehend my problem , I decided to stop that insult , after one year of my marriage , I cut off any relation with her , I gain some profits , and definitely there will be some losses , of course , she wanted a
revenge , she ordered her son ( my husband )to not visit my parents again , because they were supported my decision , it is ok , I paid this price but I gained much more , my husband do not visit my parents , but he respect them much and he always asked about them , he sometimes invented my father to our home , that is enough for me now , time will give me this little losses again , my husband loved me and , he will never change , because I am perfect woman and wife too for him , I knew , his friends envy him, they tell me , and he told me also, my friends envy me too because of having that much love between us .
I think I solved my problem and I gained much profits with less loses .
There is an Arabic wise words said:"cauterize is the last treatment"
" The general strategy can be summarized in terms of five steps:"
"(1) Comprehend the problem".( I want to stop my mother in law''s insulting and annoying me, I want a revenge )
"(2) Represent the problem in formal terms".( mother in law is important to my husband)
"(3) Plan a solution." ( patient till I get my target )
"(4) Execute the plan. "(I am standing her behavior , but it dose not work, but I gained my target, thus I decided to cut off the relationship with her)
"(5) Interpret and evaluate the solution". ( I gained my targets with less losses)
First paper is excellent but I used the second paper also:
"Second. Make a plan. Have you solved other problems like this one before?"
To give expensive gifts to mother in law is a common behavior in our society"
"Third. Carry out your plan"
It did not work , but to cut off relationship with mother in law is very rare solution in our society
"Fourth. Look back. Reread the problem"
I focus again , I want to live in peace , thus I decided to cut off relationship with her.