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TIPS ON EMO EXPOSURE.
*Write quickly and don''t attempt to edit or censor your emotional descriptions.
*In integrating
emotional charge several key items occur:
-Making full contact with a feeling. This means really feeling it without thinking. Full feeling means just that. No competing thoughts. No being distracted by other sensations, feelings, random thoughts. We''re talking being fully absorbed in the feeling and its sensations.
-The No Intention Intention. This means we fully feel our feelings with no intention of getting rid of them or keeping them. This leads to acceptance. Eventually to agape love. Keep in mind that all feelings are biological messages that do us good service even though they may bring discomfort at times in their attempts to get our attention. They all are valuable. Learning to appreciate their value assists greatly in our natural process of integration. The No Intention Intention naturally installs itself though working with Emoclear Integrators. It can also be installed by using the Intention Exercise up on the Emoclear process page. Here competing intentions (like trying to get rid of feelings or keeping them) are cleared or integrated.
*After you''ve mastered the process you can work more intuitively at the end of Emo Exposure. Go to your heartbeat area and ask it these questions.
-What can you tell me about me, others, the world around me?
-What best I do?
-What do you want for me?
-Is there anything else I better know?
Just await the murky knowing. If you translate this murky knowing into sentences, you can jot them down on paper.
*Allowing your tongue to completely relax and flatten out, prior to doing an Emo Exposure session will help close down thinking during the process of integration. This may speed the process for folks who often think a bunch.
* Calling feelings "unwanted feelings" is resistance. If we''re intending to get rid of feelings or we''re negatively putting them down, that will create resistance and block natural integration. Calling our feelings "unwanted" points back to our intentions here. So anyway you can install that intention of allowing feelings and not trying to keep feelings will greatly assist your natural ability to feel and integrate.(The Intention Exercise could help here in installing the No Intention Intention). That intention is likely the way we started out as babies. It was a nameless intention. It was a "no intention intention". We don''t start out trying to get rid of our feelings. That''s something we learn.
* Deeper acceptance is not a thought. It is a sense of what ever is going on is acceptable, okay, perhaps even agape loveable. Notice how acceptance arrives and goes. It is a natural sense of things. It flows from our essential self like essence based love. This acceptance leaves us with a sense there''s an okayness in what we''re feeling. So acceptance is part of the unsticking process. Essence based love or agape love can also do this. Acceptance is part of our spontaneous nature. It flows best when we really allow ourselves to feel something with no intention of getting rid of it or keeping it.
So if you''re fully feeling a feeling, have no intentions of getting rid of it or keeping it and allowing acceptance or agape love to flow spontaneously--you can count on your feelings, emotions, sensations to desensitize and integrate.
*Develop you appreciation for feelings by starting to notice all the good things they do.
*Hydrate yourself prior to working with the Acceptance-Love Process.
*Learn each step of Emo Exposure separately before you put all the steps together.
*The Little Pocket Intensifier can be added to the process to intensify feelings after you are well versed in the process.
*To scale the level of resistance/acceptance of a targe/resistance scale which is basically a rating scale of resistance/acceptance, ranging from overwhelming hate/can''t stand your feelings to loving and fully appreciating them.(This scale could be used instead of the SUD Scale for measuring progress in emotional processing and integration work). Here goes:
RESISTANCE/ACCEPTANCE SCALE
(10) Overwhelmingly hate/Overwhelmingly can''t stand my feelings.
(9) Strongly hate/ Strongly can''t stand my feelings.
(8) Hate my feelings/can''t stand my feelings.
(7) Mildly hate.
(6) Very much dislike my feelings.
(5) Dislike my feelings.
(4) Experiencing some negativity toward my feelings.
(3) Putting up with and not quite accepting my feelings.
(2) Accept/have some appreciation for my feelings.
(1) Love/have strong appreciation for my feelings.
Published: September 24, 2007