Most of us go through the bulk of our lives feeling frustrated and out of control. In fact, all we ever want is to be in control. Be in control of our lives – work, finances, home, body and most importantly, thoughts and feelings. Now, I say thoughts and feelings in the same breath because it’s the same, if you control your thoughts, you consequently control your feelings too. Skeptic? Let’s imagine one of the greatest tragedies and fears of most people – death of a loved one. You are bent with grief and feel like the world has actually ended for you. You go into depression and end up a mess.
Or… you can decide that things have happened and there’s nothing you can do but be strong. You decide that instead of spending the rest of your life mopping the broken pieces, you are going to move on and celebrate your loved ones life rather than concentrate on his / her death. Of course, there is the pain, but when you stop resisting, it’ll just be so much more easier and better in the end. So, it’s all in your thoughts.
However, there seems to be a general belief that thoughts and feelings are a part of us and that we are completely under their spell. But the liberating fact is… it just isn’t so. Thoughts are something you have, its nothing personal. If you are truly conscious of your feelings, you can just let them be. You’ll see how you are really the master. For most people this is a new thing.
Here is one method that I use every time I need to let go of some annoying or depressing thought. No, I did not develop this myself, I’m only sharing this because its so easy and yet so incredibly effective. It’s called the Sedona Method. Here’s how it goes:
Focus on the thought that’s bothering you.
Ask yourself these questions:
i) Could I let this feeling go?
ii) Could I allow this feeling to be here?
iii) Could I welcome this feeling?
Whether you answer a ‘Yes’ / ‘No’, it doesn’t really matter. Move on…
Now ask “Would I?”
Meaning would you let this feeling go. Remember, never debate with yourself or analyze the situation. This isn’t about your feeling being right or wrong, your aim is letting go of the feeling.
If you answer ‘Yes’, move on to the next step. If you get a ‘No’, ask yourself, “Would I rather have this feeling, or would I rather be free?”
Still a ‘No’? That’s ok, Move on to the next step.
Now ask yourself: “When?”
This is the invitation to let go NOW. Most of the times, you’ll easily let go. You can make the decision to let go anytime you chose, after all.
Repeat the steps until you are completely free of the feeling.
For stronger issues, you might have to repeat the process until you are completely free. Each time you do the steps, you’ll definitely let go something even if its very little. However, what you have let go is gone for GOOD.
There you go, simple but effective. Now use it any area of life and be FREE!