There is no need for rank
Are the rank holders the ones who succeed in life?
Need not be. Those
who have come up in life are generally those who got average marks. The rank holders may have obtained a position where marks was a selection criterion. But they may have not succeeded in their lives.
Those who succeed are those who are able to take appropriate decisions and face adverse situations calmly and those who develop mature relationships with others. Cultivating relatedness is an important criteria for success.
You should have adequate self confidence and self esteem. One’s home should have had to be peaceful, happy and
understanding. It is immaterial whether you were born poor or rich. But did your parents love and accept you and did they love each other? If not you would be probably a victim of insecurity and of low self esteem. These will stand in the way of success.
A child’s personality develops at home. Quarreling parents crate insecurity and low self esteem.
The success or failure is not decided by rank but by your home and early childhood environment.
Your child is an individual.
Even from the moment of your birth, a baby is an individual with its own feelings, emotions and problems.
Whatever a child is doing is important to it. It is erroneous to think that your child should accept whatever you say or do or command. It may be only two years old but it has its own right as an individual.
If it plays accept it. Its time is as important to it as your time is to you.
Asking it to stop and do what you want can be rude and incorrect.
Let
children become your friends and treat them as such. When he or she is your friend, you will behave to it with more respect and concern. There will be a mutual trust and the freedom to discuss anything.
You will not feel like calling it bad words, ridicule or scold for its mistakes. You wil be more patient and concerned.
When you commit a mistake, you will say, I am sorry even to your child. When they err you expect them to tell you sorry, right? .
Parental understanding.
It is the understanding and love between the parents that will help the child best. And this should be reflected in the behavior to the child.
Both the parents should consult each other before taking a decision. The decisions should be conveyed with this perfect understanding.
If one parents tells it to study and if the other disagrees with it or gives it another work, will create discord in the young mind paving the way for later insecurity. It is another matter that the child will ignore your direction in the course of time. If there is perfect congruence in what you both say, the child will obey it with joy and grow up a security feeling.
There can be disagreements regarding a decision taken by one parent in the absence of the child. You can even fight a little over it. But reach a joint decision and convey the same to the child in unequivocal terms.
For longevity…
If you stay in a country side you will increase your age by 8 years. Rememebr,you are away from the noise, air and sound pollution of the cities.
If your marriage is strong, you can add 5 years to your life.
If you have a pet you will get one year extra. More than one pet –two or three may not give you more years.
If you walk two kilometers a day you can add up to two years.
If you take breakfast every day you may get one extra year.
Taking Broccoli every day can add eight years to your life. If that is not avail be, may be leaves and vegetables can do the same, but there is no scientific study done so far on this.
Smoking may rob up to 10 years of your life!
Obesity will reduce a similar period from your life-span.
But if you are slightly overweight it will take away three years. Hence let us take care...
The diet of your children
There are parents who want to give every delicacy to their kids They want the child to grow fatty, fleshy and not bony or thin. And hence they force them to eat more and more..
This is a dangerous. The eating habits normally persists into youth and old age.
It is very difficult to change the pattern of eating.
If you were accustomed to eating a lot ice-creams, burgers, hot dogs, pizzas, sausages, and chocolates as a child, you may continue with the habit.
But being fatty or bony is genetically decided. If the father or grand father is thin the child may be thin too. If, on the other hand they were stout, the child will grow like them. It has nothing to do with the quantity of food consumed during childhood..
Sugar is white poison. Children get addicted to it through soft drinks, sweets and bakery items. The habit simply continues.
If children are thirsty give them water. Also include fruits, beans, nuts, vegetables and leaves in their regular diet.