Relationships have always been a controversial issue to deal with. But, I bet you may get appalling and opposing opinions on this big theme. As regards The Ideal Partner, something which I assume every woman pursues her life, a friend of mine defined her ideal mate as the following: “The ideal partner is someone who makes you feel loved and needed, who really respects your life and interests, whose eyes reflect everlasting love and cares and a man who may feel indentified with your own soul, tastes and feelings.” To my surprise, I found her definition rather ambitious and unreal, since it seems to be challenging to find all those traits in one single person. Apparently, we, women, are the ones who unconsciously search for this kind of men. Men who are always willing to cater for our emotional needs, and who at the same time match our social status and lifeslyle. We want all those contents in one single package, and if we happen to find it on “market”, we are the luckiest women in the world, and we tend to think we can not miss that “bargain”. However, here the problem comes. What happens if we do not find him? Shall we continue on our search? Or be just be down to earth and lower our expectations? Then, I would like to express another friend’s opinion on this topic: “ I don’t really look for an unreal stereotype of man ,but I look for one who may own virtues as well as defects, the fusion of those two aspects, in my opinion, is what pictures a person as REAL and worthwhile.” In this case, I was also surprised by this definition, because it is completely opposite to the one previously expressed by my other friend. With this new definition, a new concept is being put forward: The idea that a man with dazzling traits is not so easy to be found on “market” nowadays. And that, what we should look for, is a person with a human prevailing side, full of good virtues as well as mischief or dark sides. We, women, all want men who are smart, goodlooking, in good shape and talented enough to be at our level. But whether we are able to find them in this world or not is a matter that needs to be deeply refleted upon since their existance is highly questioned. As long as we keep on this exhausting search of this Ideal Partner, our expectations will never match the available samples on market. Consequently, we will feel disappointed and frustrated, thinking there is no men on earth who could be our soul mate. In conclusion, when time to choose our partner comes, we should evaluate many variables. There are people who claim that perfection does not exist. So, searching for it, would be a waste of time and the cradle of discontent. Be down to earth, and do not look for The Ideal Partner, instead, look for a Real Partner, who I assure
you, will be your ideal one, due to his real traits similar to yours.