The most sacred thing is not always exposed; it is often hidden and at times invisible. God is invisible and is the most sacred thing. Sexual union is sacred as it is the means to procreate, but we have degraded it by not respecting it and by doing it at times in public places where we are peeped. When the Lord procreated to give birth to the universe, nobody was there. The seed germinates in the recesses of the soil; innumerable events on the microscopic as well as the macroscopic level are hidden, invisible, thus non-profane and hence sacred.
Similarly, the sexual organ is not exposed to the eyes of one and all. However, the ugly happening is that sex has become a taboo, though being sacred. It is the source of love, life and on the macroscopic level, it is the base of the whole existence. Such a sacred thing as sex has been turned into a taboo - why? Maybe the reason is that it is the power that will make man a god. Mystics say that the sexual energy can be transformed and its effect can lead man to have a very developed mind, so much so that the sexual energy can contribute to lead man to cosmic consciousness. Therefore it is natural to kill this possibility that will create a free man, not a slave. Man can be commanded only when he is weak, and man is so weak as far as sex is concerned that he is easily manipulated.
In my opinion, the taboo around sex has been created to retain man in a stagnant state. But such a cunningness and sin cannot last for long. One day man’s understanding of sex will grow so much that he will no longer be a slave to it. This wisdom will cause his energy to move upward and will make him an illumined being. He will have enough fuel to make his mind stay in a state of constant awakening. That will be the day of real celebration, for it is only when one is free that one can celebrate. The pouring of water on the Shiva Lingam is symbolical of transcendence of the sex energy.
Even in the third millennium, sexuality is perhaps the subject of greatest taboo. Human being is the greatest miracle-maker. Every problem is created by us and the solution too rests in our hand. Man is sexual from head to toe, yet he wants to escape from it when the subject comes on the table. Every cell of our body has been made from sexual energy and sexual orgasm. Pleasure is fundamentally the same, but through the sexual contact, one touches such an intensity and subtlety of pleasure that we are irresistibly drawn towards it. The big question mark remains though we have reached considerable height in scientific research.
Mystics, however, have gone very deep into the subject to discover the secret that lies behind the appearance.
In the East, they have even invented methods to go deep into sex in order to have a greater understanding. They have called this Tantra. The mystics say that the pleasure achieved through sexual union is basically divine. A glimpse of God is tasted when the sexual act reaches the ultimate point called coitus. Said in another way, through sexual intercourse, one can peep through eternity for a split second. Our sexual energy is produced from food, the intake of oxygen, sunlight and the mind. One cell from the male and one from the female form a complete human being. Their meeting at the physical level releases energy from both sides. Therefore, we meet on a gross level, then on a subtle level. The gross level is bodily embrace while the subtle level is the love that is shared. Furthermore, the vital fluid and the sperm, which are the essence of the man, and the ovum, which is the vitality of the woman, meet too - this is the subtle union.
However, the meeting is so momentary that we hardly feel the pleasure of a deep union. It is one of the most fundamental reasons why we are so obsessed by it. If we eat very little, then we will want food every now and then. It will become a habit. Nowadays sex has become a bad habit. It is done with a sense of guilt. When there is much love between the persons who have sex, then the moment of pleasure increases and one becomes less obsessed by it. The result is that the energy starts moving upward. In fact, the purpose of the sexual energy is to procreate and to act as fuel for meditation. Actually, we procreate and waste the rest of the energy in habit and obsession. Through meditation, one can have much more joy of the same quality and that joy can be increased to such an extent so as to create an explosion of our being. This is called samadhi in the East, which can be translated as cosmic consciousness.