Domestic
violence is very common in countries like India and the poor wife gets adjusted to it and there are so many who
think that it is their destined lot and that they have to suffer silently. Being from a very conservative background exposed to a male dominated society, she learns to deny herself everything and consoles herself that the abuse and
violence is all normal and her lot. Over time, when subjected to humiliations, abuses and metal torture and even violence, she begins to believe herself lacking and unworthy.
Many a time there is no physical violence and as there is no trace for mental torture or humiliation even a complaint cannot be lodged. . Further, the husband does not feel any guilt or burden of mind as he has not raised his hand or struck her.
As she cannot complain against humiliation of mental torture, she silently suffers and it brings a host of physical ailments and stress related diseases. There are women who suffer from asthma, acidity or loss of appetite, piles, ulcers and so many others.
Women, take charge of your lives
It is very difficult to counsel a victim of mental torture. Rarely does the outside world know about such harassments and even if the wife drags her husband to a
counselor he can wear a mask of being well placed and cultured . He can easily escape the counselor’s admonitions and even mange to put the blame on the wife.
Such disturbances are often caused by a lack of communication. Open the channels of proper communication on a regular basis. The counselor would be able to help you.
Economic independence can only help to a some extent. But definitely try to have our own source of income. This will add to your self respect.