Arab women
fear Why Arab women never
face her fear? Why she hidden from the truth? Why she keep quite from her dreams? Why she must to handle all the problems around her without any help? Where her right? Where her freedom to chose?
I always wanted to face my fear but I didn’t
know how hard it is, to know the truth about my Arab society, she keep fighting for nothing, I know many girls fighted for the dreams but they didn’t make it, because the pressure of the society. When she baby
girl they put in her mind, you
born to get married and have babies, they close the doors of her freedom, and if she tried to open the door, they scream at her and tell her you are not ready enough, she never be ready from there side, but if the women is ambitions will try to find a window to open it if all the doors are closed.
Yelling at her because she telling the truth, only because she want to express her feelings, as any normal human. Why she can’t decide what her destiny, and have a fear just to think about the freedom. No no I don’t know what is the secret of this, but I know only one thing that we have it before we born, the
society and tradition, that making the women close her mouth and put her words in other road, away from anyone, she keep quite to satisfy her husband or
family or the society, she never satisfy herself.
Women fear from eyes of the society that lead women fear from achieve her dreams and goals. The society never helps women to fulfill her dreams, and to find her own life, its help her only to keep quite.
She born in environment that grow to be nondependent, and if she become 18 years old that mean she must to get married, and the guy that want her, first must her parents to agree, like he will marry her family not her alone.
This is for marriage issues how come for her future and for her destiny , they chose her groom as they want, first to be in high class, second to be In good family, good repetition , third to have enough money to live her rest life in home without need of work.
The old fashion family, don’t care about love; they feel it’s not existed. I heard about allot of stories that we listen to it everyday that makes me feel bad and sad, for example two couples they crazy love each other, more what you are imagine, they complete each other, suddenly her b.f want to come to home to ask for marriage, that mean after month they will engaged, but her parents Said No to her b.f, because for stupid reasons, because they not fit them. Who will get married them or her! Because the girl give up, she can’t face her family and society, after while her family forces her to married her cousin to forget her past love, she had first baby after while, and never went to study in college, because she raising her baby, this is one example from million of examples that we hearing it daily, that makes me feel speechless, make me feel like knife in my heart. They control the women in everything even in her heart.
Women heart become like a stone and game no feelings to love they just saying easily you will love him after marriage. How can I describe women fear? It’s mixed from past, tradition and others stories. Mean that we listen allot of stories that make the women fear for example :”did u heard about this girl, her b.f take from her everything she have and leave her, mean that he slept with her and after that he want other girl”, these words telling to every girl to take a lesson from other girl.
I know very well, no one can get over what she raised and her freedom that didn’t born yet, women fear from the love from the hope of life, women fear to fulfill her dreams, to become what she want, women fear to tell the truth to the man he killed her feelings, never give to her love and make her miserable all her life, she keep silence because she born to be in jail all his life, first copper jail with her parents, then gold jail in her husband home as they said, and maybe she will be in silver jail if she stay in her home alone with her age that growing.
In the end that no begging of it, I want to tell that we must to face our fear to get over everything let us down, the brave is to face the fear, and without fear no brave.
When we face our fears we can get over the fear and we know what the meaning of brave.
We born in society saying yes to the men and No to the women No to achieve her dreams, No to listen to them, No to there freedom, but they don’t know in these women few women saying yes in low voice and when all the quit yes become together, become yes sound high volume and they stop every No become to them.
By : Yasmine MAttar
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