TRUTH ABOUT THE
BEDROOM LIES BY RITU VERMA . REVIEW BY
SAMGAR R SANGMA.
Lies that partners tell between the sheets.From ages we have been told to stick to one fact - be ‘brutally honest’ with your
partner in all aspects of life.
However, do we all follow that golden rule? Before you start feeling guilty, allow me to tell you that you are not the only one living with white lies in your relationship. The place where people feel most comfortable lying is their
bedroom.
If women lie about their vital stats, men also fudge about the numerous sex partners they have had. May be it helps them in keeping the romance alive in their den. So here are some of the truths that most of the people prefer keeping under the wraps.
One Lady said, “Like all other girls, I spoke at length about lovemaking with my friends before getting married. But when it came to practicing it, I literally got cold feet. It’s been eight months, but it’s rare that I reach an orgasm. I find intercourse a painful act. Because of hesitation and the fear of rejection, I keep mum. I think it would affect my husband’s ego if I tell him that he fails to satisfy me.”
A psychiatrist suggests, “At times men also fake an orgasm, but it’s mainly a female dominated phenomenon. There can be several reasons like guilt, fear of getting pregnant, no desirability for the partner or painful intercourse. Not necessarily you reach the big ‘O’ all the time, but faking it for long to save your partner from embarrassment is not the right thing to do in bed. Talking about the issue frankly will certainly help.”
I forgot the count
Most of the men consider women as extremely possessive beings. Therefore, they generally manipulate the number of women they have shared ‘good’ times with.
You were in between the act and your partner pushed you to try a new position. You found it awkward and it wasn’t that pleasurable too. Still you preferred to say, ‘it was great’. Many people can relate to this situation.
Virginity values...
Virginity still seems to be a big deal when it comes to marriage. No matter how modern people claim to be, they still want a virgin while getting married.
An architect confesses, “I have been in an intense relationship in my past, because of his family issues we couldn’t take it forward. Now I am getting married to another guy. With my sexual behavior, he might get to know that I am not a virgin. Therefore I plan to act extra cautious, I cannot afford to ruin my future because of my past. Sometimes I wonder, is it really a big deal.”
“You were in between the act and your partner pushed you to try a new position. You found it awkward and it wasn’t that pleasurable too. Still you preferred to say, ‘it was great’. Many people can relate to this situation.
A media person says, “Men simply adore women who are blessed with a nice cleavage and my boyfriend is no different. Thanks to all the inventions in terms of lingerie, it is easier to look a size bigger. I think it's fair enough to misguide him this much, if it gives him a sexual high. The only problem I face is, I can’t go for lingerie shopping with him.”
“Most of the men have a fascination for women with fuller figures. And if you know how to take advantage, than there is nothing like it. At times men also brag about their size. It's better not to make claims that you may not be able to sustain for long. It may cause embarrassment to both of you,” tells Doctor.
“It’s certainly not an uncommon situation. We live in a modern society and pre-marital sex is not an alien term now. However, it's still a hush-hush issue. So if you think your partner will not be able to digest the truth about your past, then it's better to keep it to yourself. Still it's always advisable that if you have had a sexual relationship, you should go for a medical check up before you tie the knot.”