Essential element and the purpose of marriage
In every marriage has a lot of preparation material provided by the LTO officers (Marriage Preparation Course) such as on the family economy, the sacrament of marriage, spiritual marriage, but have not given a lot of material related to the subject matter as essential elements and purpose of marriage. What are the essential elements and the purpose of marriage? Canon 1055, § 1 states marriage focused on two goals: "marriage by nature focused on the well-being of husbands and wives (coniugum bonum), the birth and education of children (bonum prolis)". The same tentag "bonum prolis" stated in GS, no. 50 that the purpose of marriage to the birth and education of children. Coniugum Bonum translated into the Indonesian language means the welfare of husband and wife. Welfare of the spouses is a personal goal of marriage, it is also an essential element of marriage. So if it does not exist in a marriage can be annulled marriage is automatic. Why is that? Because the husband or wife or both are not aware or do not have a fundamental element (essential) in the form of marriage, so marriage does not exist. And the reality of marriage (in facto esse matrimonium) such that, many are broke because they do not achieve personal well-being in marriage. Many marriages today are ignoring the welfare elements husband and wife, they are not ready to build a family as a result of economic factors after a few years they failed and broke up his marriage. Welfare is meant in the codex is the economic / material and the spiritual / mental.
Canon 1055, § 1: The characteristic nature of marriage focused on the welfare of husband and wife
Canon 1055, § 1: states that "the Agreement (foedus) marriage, with a man and a woman establish between their partnership (consortium) throughout life, which according to its nature focused on the welfare traits spouses (bonum coniugum) as well as birth and education (bonum prolis), between the baptized, raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of the sacrament (bonum sacramentum). If we telisik deeper as a material in the LTO and also be an aid to the LTO drive, meaning "bonum coniugum" really important. Praxis marriage focused on personal goals of marriage the husband and wife in marriage life journey has welfare (economic / material and the mental / spiritual).
Transformation "coniugum bonum" of love to love (the mental / spiritual)
In life husband and wife, "bonum coniugum" wants to change the idea of love to love to love manhood. It requires waku a long time, many years in the real-life marriage to "forget yourself" (egoism) and put couples. With a loving husband or wife respectively to leave the prison cell of loneliness and alienation caused by the self-centered attitude (self-centeredness). With love, each will feel a new sense of unity, meaning "become one flesh", meaning living communion (totius consortium vitae).
More than that, each felt the potential of generating in love with love, not because of addiction to receive the love and therefore should be a little helpless, but sebalikya I loved because I love your spouse. Love that no adult (child) said I love you because I need you, otherwise mature love would say: I need you because I love you.
Welfare spouses as an essential element of marriage and personal goals, needs unconditional love. In marriage, "bonum coniugum" as an essential element and wants tujua spouses are not mutually exploit. Each must learn to dialogue with each other love each other unconditionally. John Powel summarizes his views on what usually happens to husband and wife who went from loved to love and find excellence in life. There are five fundamental transformation "bonum coniugum" from loved being loved:
• 1) Accept yourself: those who are fully viable accept and love themselves is,
• 2) Be yourself: those completely non receives their true identity,
• 3) Forgetting ourselves: learning to accept and be themselves, husband and wife fully and actively develop themselves totally to loving couples,
• 4) Believe: learning beyond the attention focused only on yourself and believe in family and finding meaning in life in pairs,
• 5) Have: The complete life, make life a house that has the sense of togetherness.