Marriage is going to be what you and one other person make it. Marriage is one of life that so scares some people that they either remain single, embrace the religious life or just live in. Getting married is easy, but staying married is difficult. Staying happily married for a lifetime should rank among the fine arts. How true, how true! So one wonders: why do some marriages succeed and others fails. HERE ARE SOME SECRETS TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE
: 1. Develop a Mature Concept of Love.
For too many, love is a breathless romantic glow in which they expect to have emotional needs gratified. In matured love, the beloved''s welfare and happiness become more important than your own. As someone once said, "Real love is the accurate estimate and supply of another''s needs." 2. Work on Communication Constantly
. Set aside a specific time, perhaps early in the morning, perhaps before going to bed, to talk about plans nd problems, grievances or misunderstanding, any aspect of living together. Once the habit of sharing things verbally is established. 3. Cultivate Humility
. Love does not insist on its own way. Having to be right all the time may be due to a fear of losing control, but if you can never be wrong, you cannot sustain love. Just ask forgiveness and give forgiveness then you can relax in your relationship.
4 . Learn to Laugh
. You may have to learn how and when to laugh; you may have to take steps to develop a sense of humor and keep it finely tuned. 5. Take Responsibility
. Marriage is going to be what you and one other person make it. Face up to the fact that any disagreement, you are not going to change your partner very much. The only person you can really change is YOURSELF.6.Practice the Art of Appreciation
. Everybody cherishes a world of praise. Why not master the art of the casual compliment, the little unforseen gesture that says, "I think you''re wonderful just the way you are?". 7. Learn How to Defer Gratification
. This is a combination of self-control and patience.
Now, who''s afraid of Marriage?