The vision of the system about the couple teaches us that the seduction functions not of a linear form - to the man towards
the woman - that it would configure old and exceeded papers - but in a circular way, in which two involve the same way in loving game. To place the woman as passive and man as “the hunting” does not represent the reality. They both have influence and any one of the two can initiate the seduction process, what can occur simultaneously. At the first moment, the desire of fusing prevails, that is, the search of complementation, of the “two in one” - when that person becomes full and complete, filling the lack of inherent loneness that all human being has. The passion propitiates the imaginary feeling of that is possible; therefore the other became part of us, reflecting as a mirror, an idealized image. This state of fusing or passion liberates some hormones in the brain, and it brings a great sensation of happiness. But soon this sensation of fullness goes cooling with the perception of the existence of the individual
differences. One does not see more in the other its mirror and the
disillusionment is inevitable. This is a very delicate moment in the life of the couple. The partners can live deeply sensation of abandonment, treason, emptiness and perplexity, for not finding more in the other the previous state, and taking offense themselves at this. The difficulties of the relationship tend to incite in this point and the specialized aid of the therapist can become necessary helping to exceed them and to surpass the disillusionment, and to obtain to coexist as differentiated citizens that love each other and use the differences as factor of enrichment and complementation inside of its relation.