We were always taken to believe that Mother is that that stays home, she takes
care of the children, you/he/she feeds them and she gives affection. The
Father is already that that works out the whole day, but at night it is there, to play and, a
lot of times, even in the protejer of the mom''s tapinhas. But, there is some time those papers they have If inverted.
Today, it is not difficult to see parents that stay home, taking care of the children, while the mother works out. Some until they can be unemployed, but most does prefer it is to work independently and to attend, closely, the growth of the shoots.
This is the autonomous worker''s case, Geraldo Corrêa Rodrigues .Sua it handcuffs, Margarida, works all the day in a public school. As it is competed and it possesses two positions in the same employment, he/she
says that, in spite of feeling lack of having a more little of time for the
children - Lara and Tomás - he/she has to think twice before releasing the employment. I was " already tried to release several times, but I cannot give myself to that luxury ", he/she affirms. " Perhaps, if Geraldo didn''t have that readiness of time, I had already released ", he says.
For Margarida, to only leave the children with nanny or maid demands a big dose of care and trust. It " is not easy. Each person receives an education type and I disagree of a lot of things that I see them to do ", bill. " But, with Geraldo always at home, I am calmer ".
Gratifying experience
Geraldo counts that to have children is a difficult task. Since they are born, they become first plan in the parents'' life and its creation is a daily investment for the future. In that way, as soon as they arrive to the world, the parents are about providing what there is of best for you create them: they take care of the health, education and they teach values so that one day they become adult responsible and conquer its independence.
Older of five siblings, Geraldo reminds that, as the mother and the father they worked a lot, he is who took care of the
house and of the siblings. " And nor that I stopped being man. It is not disgrace to be a present father, to be at home with the children, to take care of them. I think only learned and I have more to learn, with all that experience ", he/she declares.
Present father, even in the kitchen
Formerly, to change diapers and to give of suckling was seen as woman''s thing, but today, the men already tore the old cartilha and they just are not satisfied with supplier''s paper, that the society has times you/he/she defined. Rogério Marioni that says it.
Rogério assumed the command of the house since last year, when him and its wife, Valéria, closed the bar, where they worked together. She began to work out and he opted for being at home, working independently. Besides taking care of the children, he is also craque in the domestic services: it sweeps, he/she washes, it passes, he/she cooks and he/she still says that likes!
It is " everything a need subject, adaptation and choice. We opted for not placing a maid and ourselves take care of them. Me, that I was accustomed to have everything in the hand, he/she didn''t know how to do nor a coffee, I learned how to live in different " way, bill. Proud, the father reminds although the children - Larissa and Matheus - they only appeal to him, when they want any inside thing of house.
" The
women fought to get a place in the labor market, even so they end up paying a high price, sometimes. But it is an option of them, as well as that investment of papers it ends up being also a consequence of that ", it highlights.
Rogério finds important that the machismo is abolished once and for all. He/she doesn''t " make sense. Does the life for two imply in we turn ourselves an alone one,ines if factions exist inside of house? What only interests us it is we be mirrors for our children ", it concludes.
Open crop
The psychologist and family therapist, Ana Stuart, considers that, for a relationship where investment of papers exists to give right, it is precise a lot of chat and pré-defined agreements. It " is not impossible and, if this relationship type goes well worked, she can become very well happened, as in the case of Rogério''s " family, he/she says. Only that the alert psicológa: a lot of prejudice still exists, and on the part of the own women. I " notice that the men are not finding the bad situation, but the women, yes, because they are not accustomed to see the man as a passive and dominated " illustration, it stands out.
According to her, a lot of women still have a certain resistance. Until they can admit the change, for pure need, but, in the fund, they will think the man meets suitable with the situation, what can do with that the marriage enters in crisis, with the loss of the admiration and to of the tension. It is " logical that am not speaking about everybody. But, for who doesn''t admit that, the only exit it is the frank and open " chat, it concludes.
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