Every child is special. Every child has its own personality. Every child tries to aim and focus best in its life. Most important, every child has its own dreams. But the main factor to ponder is, we to understand his/her dreams. And the truth is, we lack stability, patience and understanding as far as our own child is concern. . That day we were resting and enjoying the chill and moist waves of small harbor at Cap Malheureux, at northern point of Mauritius. My brain was counting all behaviors and problems that every parent, indeed including me, faced or betters to comment facing it. My eyes were glued tight and my ears were focused as the Mauritanian mother continue arguing and explaining the young child of hers, the harmful outcome of not eating and hygiene. As far as my eyes read the young beauty, her behavior was stubborn and she was not convinced. Why do it take long for a child to convince? Is it us! The problem? Or the child itself is stony? Naturally most parents ends quoting their child as “Difficult Child” or in other words “Problem Child”. Regardless to the problem that they face with their child, parents continue at their own way of understanding. In groups it is often seen that mothers portray their child as the most difficult one and continue describing its Problematic child rather asking for help. Convincing children into any kind of particular matters is common factor seen in many parenthood cases. The best way to start is to ensure the child confidence. Let the child speak and describe his/herself in details. It is best not to intercept in between. Mostly parents do intercept and shrug him hard that the child is force to act violent or remains quiet. Most children like experimenting. And it is seen when ever they are stop from their act, they ignore their parents and continue doing so. Explaining may help. But more it is useful when parent tries to act like their child. Apply the trick rather forcing the kid to move back. Fairy tales sometimes do help the child in convincing and explaining matters. Encourage the children and appreciate them when they take interest by questioning and repeating things what they should not. I agree that it is very irritating but believe me it will work very fast. Child confidence will not only increase but though he/she will trust you more. At night, Set behind the banana bar on the east end of Grand Baie is “Don Camillo”. We were having hot tea and enjoying the conversation when low anger voices shook us quiet. Angry mother was making her child to eat its food but the child was easily distracted by the commotions around. It does happen often. And sometimes it is worse when the child is not at all paying attention. At home, when two siblings are doing their homework, one easily get distracted by voices or home chores around. Some children’s have great difficulty of remaining still.
They walk or climb windows or couches when others are seated. They wants to know everything especially when elders are talking, some children likes to talk in between. They questioned and their question leaves an elder in awkward situations. Is it said so, children act without thinking. And may be they are very much ignore when it comes to understanding and behavior. Medical science named and categorizes these symptoms under the name “Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder”. The cardinal rule that every psychopathic do advice is you is your child best advocate. Going to the psychiatric and considering our own child as a patient of mental and behaviour disorder is difficult. And mother takes time to accept. And being a mother myself , I understand the mother antrums and love to their child. But since I am a doctor, so I must quote here, its not a disease rather just a disorder and it can happen to anyone. May be you can become the victim. Generally it is seen that the problem not only affect the child but originally entire family need help. The best approach is organizing.Try organizing everything likeclothing,toys etc. Let your child help you in your daily routine. And if rules are follow, do give small rewards. The goal is focus in explaining the child to do respective good behavior inorder to earn the reward. Limit the number of playmates.This will help the parent to monitor the child behaviour .if the child is very aggressive and has difficult in completing the task at one go than instruct the child step by step. But remember to praise on completion of every step. I saw a parent taking her child on walk daily. It not only helped her to communicate well but also in counselling the child. Mother of a child is a good facial reader. She understands well when her child is hungery? Or when the child is angry? . So a mother should practice and read her child long before the desire behaviour pattern occurs. Than only she can manage and understands the child well. But ofcourse rewards and penalities can be both affective.Do modify the behaviour by giving small or say mild penalities when he doesnt perform the desire behaviour. Every child is special. So why trust others? Help your child yourself and give him/her a new life that he/she deserves.