Many teenagers think of parents as opposing forces that they need to battle. Just like it is hard for you to understand your teen, your teen is struggling to cope with the changes in their lives and comprehend your views. So what does it take to be a good parent, especially if you are dealing with a violent or angry teen? Persistence and patience are a virtue in this case.
Your teen wants to live life his way and have his space, in short, be treated like an adult. Such teens are hostile, tell you they hate you, are angry, isolated, indulge in drug or alcohol abuse and have violent outbursts from time to time. The reasons could be anything from peer pressure to failed relationships. Be considerate without compromising on essential values.
The first step is for you to recognize that this is a part of growing up and most of us would have gone through it ourselves. Your teen in most cases has no clue why he is so angry and is directing that anger on you. It is vital for you to remain calm no matter how personal their remarks. Remember that they do not mean it; it is just very convenient for them to take it out on you, their parents.
The best thing to do when your teen has an angry outburst is to walk away and allow each side to cool off instead of having a verbal battle. Discussing the issue after calming down will be more fruitful and meaningful. The golden rule for any parent is be calm and let your teen cool down before you speak to him.