The
relation of a
couple is supported not alone in the personal, cultural compatibility and sexual ideals, but also
in the complementaridad of parts repressed of each personality, where the unconscious communication determines the quality of the intimacy of the couple and the capacity to maintain maintained a sexual and emotional proximity through the time, in the marriage or in long-term relations that be equivalent. The intimacy is function of the quantity of unconscious communication among the people in any situation.
The intimacy that is given at the beginning of the entourage emphasizes one of the aspects of internal objects that are shared. According to David and Jill Scharff during the entourage can be given moments of distancing in which the person suddenly finds a characteristic in the other that him does not please and shrinks inside its self.
The Sexual and Marital Therapy recognizes that the self and the other they are intermingled. More still, the marital
relation and the sexual operation cannot be advanced without considering the marital relation since the sexual problems express and they permit to relate it to unconscious factors. The Theory of the Relations you Object them begins with the need of the human individual to have relations.
Since the starts of the life what motivates the infant, is its need to relate with its mother. And it is inside this headquarters of I attach her, that the baby grows. This I attach early form the psychosomatic couple, (Winnicott, 1971), a relation that at times, he is completely somatic and completely psychological. The relation of the adult retains resonance with the history of his first relation with the mother and with the person that takes care of it. In the first years of the Psychoanalysis, Freud introduced the theory that the events and deprivaciones, they constitute the nucleus of difficulty for the individual; if there was seduction in the childhood, masturbation and prohibition or other, they cause psychological traumas. The quality of experiences that has had the boy, they determine the quality of their development.