Deserve to be Married – Part- V
Exploring self is not that simple an exercise to undertake, It needs a will and to generate a will, let marriage decision gain importance. Let us admit, we do not know much about intricacies of this relationship and responsibilities. You need to get scared of the consequences, if right decision is not taken. At the same time, you need to imagine a pleasant association, which will fortify your life ambitions and happy life. Motivation for marriage deserves to be defined very clearly time and again, over a period. Let that be happy union, pleasure of sex, and association for life ambitions, union of families, kids and much more. There is no scope for shirking from dreams, and imagination. Let the sketch be developed.
I recall an interaction with a bright engineer employed with a Multinational and refusing to give importance to marriage kind of association as against career and fun. It left a question with me, why is it happening and can be heard very often. Either Erosion or communication gap or pressure of exploring self is causing this denial to work upon.
Or this is a kind of maturity, i.e the destiny that is understood from its basics.
However formulas and tips do work- back into our thought process if we are not able to explore ourselves holistically. Most of us do not like to understand the basics but straight a way like to work on results. Therefore it is advisable that one evolves certain parameters which one feels comfortable and otherwise, so that wrong decisions are not taken in hurry.
The very next process after exploring one’s traits is acceptance of the same. It is vital, because, we do not like ourselves. We wish to be different sometimes than what we are. May be, sometimes we do not respect self, do not love self. There lies an area of concern. And we need to work on this—to be contd --------- ashwani
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