When Children Love Cursing
Suddenly the little baby you are removing the harsh words? You may not be aware that abusive behavior was adapted from its immediate environment, namely the family. There are several factors that generally affect the incidence of bad habits, one of which is environmental.
Cursed, usually done when someone is angry, upset, or irritated. So did the kids. Whether because of his toys taken away, destroyed, his body hurt, or soiled clothes. "In
essence, calumny will come out when there is pressure on him that makes
the child uncomfortable feeling," said Roslina Verauli, M.Psi., Of
Empathy Development Centre, Jakarta.
calumny is often done with obscenities, abusive, or cornering, such as
"son of a bitch", "bastard", "dog", "monkey", "stupid", and so on. When
these words were spoken child, according to Vera, parents should direct
it because it is not good for the growth of the child's personality. Also, the environment will take it as a child with a negative image.
According to Vera, this is the variety of causes that make children issued a detraction calumny-dirty:
Preschoolers are still very happy to imitate. No need to wait until many times, because to see and hear even children can directly replicate. He can imitate from friends, TV, or from the family environment. The more he heard or saw, the more likely to do it. Prior
to emulate, the child was trying to read when to calumny-swear word are
spoken, such as when the person is upset, angry, or dijahili. Kids will do that at the same moment.
2. Seeking Attention
Many children like to seek attention to things that are considered inappropriate. It could be rough and dirty calumny be a way to get the child's attention. Usually done as a child in a normal psychological state, not angry, not upset. The reaction shocked or angry parents are usually regarded as a form of attention, and therefore fun for children. He will feel that he succeeded. Other times he would repeat it again.
3. Want As Friends
Want together with friends is almost similar to the process of imitation. However, this desire is not merely to imitate speech ever heard of her, but there are equally valid desire. "Well, my friend dared say that like swearing, I was brave enough to say ah," for example. Typically, the imitated not only detraction but also other behaviors. For example, if the friend swore as he pursed his mouth and clenched his fists, he will do so.
Sometimes imitation factor will be nurtured and accelerated by the aggressive attitude of the child. Although once seen or heard calumny calumny-dirty, children can instantly imitate. Moreover, when a child gets a stimulus, such as a parent scolded. Children who are very aggressive will respond with calumny-backlash.
AS a parent, what should be done to deal with a toddler who unwittingly started cursing or throw like a dirty word. Here are some tips that you can do.
1. Keep children away from their activities as he swore. For example, when the child was playing alone or with friends. Mothers need to pay attention to the child without giving the impression of a public judgment that the children make mistakes.
your child to repeat the words (detraction) had said in a question
form, so that the mother could hear clearly the words in question. It may be that the words were not a swear word but it just sounded like a curse. If
this happens, do not do anything, let alone say, "Oh, Mother ... talk
about ade," because it can introduce the child to swear words.
3. If the child is really cursed, do not scold and yell at him. No
need to give a punishment for the curse word was the first time that
the child and the mother should be able to handle it well.
4. The child's hand, face-to-eye, and said in a soft voice that he had said not a word either and inappropriate spoken at home. Remember to always use a friendly tone without showing anger.
ananda understand that what he said is wrong, give the child a hug and
say, it's not his fault because ananda not know that swearing is a bad
thing. Then, let the children back to their activities.
6. If calumny this is the second time, saying to emo with a heavier tone that the child should not use that word in the house. Say, if the child's mother to do it again it will give punishment because the sentence was not appropriate spoken.
calumny occurs three times, she had to take action harder and
discipline because the child already knows cursing bad words but still
do it. Do not undo sentencing. Be firm and stop it before it becomes a habit calumny is bad for children.
And no less important, give the children an example of good behavior and attitude so that he can duplicate it. Start from the nearest family. Encourage your child to talk heart-to-heart about the rude behavior. Cultivate her verbally abusive and swore not a good thing and worth doing. Remind him constantly with a smooth and creamy without having to scold and judge.
Give understanding and sanctions regarding what will be accepted and be consequences if he still said rudely. Instead, give praise or reward if he manages to control his emotions and not issued harsh words when he was angry