Hour show at around 16:15. Suddenly, the atmosphere of the afternoon in the hall of a village split by a shouting man. The voice belonged to a woman. He''s incessant screams for help to the residenta around.
She ran as he cried. She seemed to be hunted something. Suspicion was not wrong. Women who are aged around 30 years waaas being chased by a man. Although young women continue to be hunted, no citizen who dared to help his. Because, the man had threatened him with brandishing a machete blade.
Shortly thereafter, the man can finally confined the police thanks ti the citizens of the report. Morning, initially gripping gradually to normal.
Apparently, this man was the husband of the woman who asked for such help. The husband admitted his emotions on fire due to see his wife receive a male guest in her home. When anger hit, common sense could not speak. Jealousy neraly spilling clood.
In another incident, a wife to her husband insists on asking for a divorce. It was triggered by jealousy of the wife because her husband allegedly often there lyrics here. In fact, the wife accuses the husband to plau unfaithful with another women. However, the accusations were denied by the husband. He was accused of jealousy over his wife''s excessive.
The husband claimed to have never committed the alleged wife. The man said his wife''s accusations are not true. However, the reason it could not stem the fighting in their household. Plow households that fostered over the years are at risk. Jealousy neraly toppled the old forded togetherness.
Two Jealous
One of the properties of the beliver is jealous. Because, jealousy is a sign of love and affection. Islam praised the man who has a sense of jealousy and denounced those who do not have them. In addition to suggesting jealous, Islam imposes limits. When the limit is violated, corrupted happiness of the household. Godly husband must understand that in order to create the life sakinah, mawadah and Rahmah.
Prophet Muhammad said, "Allah is jealous and a believer to jealous. Jealousy of God that accurs when there is a servant came to him by his unlawful acts.
In the hadith narreted by Ahmad, Ibn Hibban and Nasa''i, the Prophet said that there are really jealous of that liked and hated by Allah SWT. The preferred jealous God is jealous of the things that for sure. While jealousy is hated by his jealous of the things that are uncertain.
Thus, there are two kinds of jealous. First of all, jealousy is human nature. Namely, that could keep the jealous neutral and protect the dignity and image of the family from the actions or attitudes of pollution exceeds the limit. Jealousy is considered worthy of noble morality which every believer.
Second, the jealous harmful and forbidden. That is jealous without reason that always tormented soul. When the mind is being controlled by prejudice, we can only accuse an innocent person. Above all, jealousy is not unreasonable could damage the dynamics of domestic life and peace.
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Fire jealous of place could burn the truth and gave birth to rash action or mayhem. About jealousy, the wife of the Prophet SAW and his companions never experienced it. Prophet once asked his wife, Aisyah ra,"Do you wver feel jealous?" She said, "How could someone like myself do not feel jealous if you have a husband like you." (HR Ahmad)
Aisyah has ever overcome jealousy when the Prophet arrived in Madinah with Shafiya equally migrate and wife who he married on his way to Medina. Aisyah said, "I''m in disguise and get out to see it. However, Rasululloh know what I did and he walked toward me. So, I hurried to leave him. But, he quickened his pace to catch up. Then he asked, "What do you think about him?" She said with a sarcastic tone, "He is a Jewish woman, the daughter of a Jew," (HR Ibn Majah)
Nature of such jealousy is also owned by the companions of the Prophet that the men. For example, Sa''d bin Ubadah. He once said, "If I saw a man with my wife, I would hit him with a sharp sword (to kill)." So, the Prophet said,"Are you surprised by Sa''ad jealousy? Really I''m more jealous than he, and Allah is more jealous than I am." (Bukhari and Muslim)
Well, the phenomenon of jealousy that diversity must be understood and addressed in accordance with Islamic Shari''a. Dealing with jealousy was influenced by the character or temperament of the individual. However, there is a bright spot in the case of jealousy.
Anything?
1. Consistently uphold the truth and fight crime
2. Protect your self-esteem and family
3. Prevent any possible libel defame and defile the sanctity of the family
4. Husnudzdzon (positive thinking) or a kind thought
5. Putting sakinah family unit in order to be pleasing to Allah SWT
Based on the above explanation, it is clear that jealousy is a natural thing, even necessary owned by a Muslim who believes in Allah SWT, the origin does not exceed the limit. It is in accordance with the words of the Prophet Muhammad. "There are there groups who would not go to Heaven. That is, people are rebellious against her mother''s father, duyuts (people sho have no sense of jealousy), and women who resemble men." (HR Nasai and Judge)